If you’re a cisgender and your first shemale date is nearing, you might be experiencing raging nerves. That’s completely OK. Don’t beat yourself up for it. You may even be questioning if you should show up. If you’ve performed the appropriate safety due diligence, you should show up. Ghosting earns you a bad reputation. That said, never place yourself in a bad situation.
As your first shemale date approaches, it’s a good time to get your cisgender strategy in order. Let’s go over a number of ways you can help yourself to shemale dating success.
Determine Who Pays (Yeah, That’s Stressful)
Let’s begin with the big whopping stressor that crosses almost every dating vertical there is. Who the heck pays for the date?
It doesn’t matter if its just coffee, it can be a super awkward initial interaction. It may even set the tone for the relationship in general.
There are a couple of ways to approach this.
If you are meeting for coffee, arrive super early and already have your coffee drink at a table. This helps remove you from the equation during the payment point.
The second best way is to just assume you are paying. Without hesitation, whether dinner or coffee or drinks, just assume you are paying and act accordingly. If your shemale date cuts you off to pay, then you can decide whether or not to accept. They may just say “I’ll pay for me,” and again, decide from there.
Don’t force yourself in terms of paying, though. If the person seems staunchly against you paying for them, allow them to pay. They may not want to feel pressure. Its normal. If you offer to pay, and they cut you off and say they will pay for themselves, you can make one final offer and then let the chips fall where they may.
Be Respectful
Sure, Shemale Sex Date is an adult dating site. You, and them, should be here for the hookup, not the marriage proposal. But that doesn’t give either of you a free pass to act in an atrocious, perverse manner right away.
If you’ve already established some flirtatious energy with your shemale, then by all means, keep and build on that energy. But otherwise, it’s important to realize that the first date is a time to gain insight and comfort with the person.
Everyone is looking for something different in a first shemale date experience. One shemale may be concerned over dating, another might want to make sure you’re not a dud, or that you will really show up and follow through with what you say to them.
Your date is likely looking for maturity. Because with maturity comes a responsible type of person. There is less chance of being stood up, or someone outing them to bros, etc.
Prioritize Dating Safety
Your shemale date wants a safe environment, and central to that is a person who is safe. When you prioritize safety, you send a message that you are safe. When you don’t, you raise concerns.
For example, when discussing a hookup destination, if you keep saying “oh I don’t care, wherever,” it may seem like you don’t care about safety at all. Be attentive towards safety concerns. If your shemale date is worried that they don’t know you well enough, oblige them with options to communicate more.
Yes, a dating site brings about more expedited sexual scenarios, but that should not mean it’s overtly laissez fair in its experience. Everyone moves at their own speed in terms of how they approach protecting themselves from bad elements. You should always respect that and furthermore, convey you share the value of personal safety.
Don’t Expect The Full Monty
If your communication has been on point with your date, you may already have established what the first date entails. Maybe that’s sex, maybe it’s not. If you haven’t established this, don’t get your hopes exceedingly high for sexy fun time.
It’s pretty standard to have one ‘get to know you’ date in the shemale dating community. This is of course for both safety and synergy reasons. If you are sold you’re going to knock boots and it doesn’t happen, you’ll end up super frustrated.
It may also alter how relaxed you are when approaching the date. You want to put your best foot forward and establish synergy, which often leads to sex.
Just because you are on a shemale dating hookup site doesn’t mean that you should expect everything to be overly expedited. Safety and synergy are two barriers to sexy time. So appease them both when you meet your first shemale date and watch as the sparks fly.